I hold a genuine interest in people above all. I love people and enjoy very much discovering them in their particular sparks of life and ways of facing existence, that made me fall in love with peoples and cultures all around the globe the whole of my life. I have had the gift of traveling a lot, but most importantly, I have had the gift of actually living immersed in totally different cultures, and under the rules of such and such cultures and exigencies, like if I was another one of them. This is very different than being there just on holidays, except in India, which I only could stay for one month, not so long ago. To have a grasp of India, I think I would have needed 10 years of living there! When you go on holidays, you don’t really get the picture of what is going on in a country, you need to spend at least one year in place, following the rules of the place. Sometimes, just watching people gives me the most amazing moments of joy I could possibly be willing to have
. If I were to plan having this kind of happiness, I know I would not achieve it by myself as I cannot reconstruct them, I don’t have the power of doing it, that belongs to life I guess. I know it is pretty abstract so far what I’m saying, so I will give you an example of these kind of simple but reach experiences I'm refering to:
Once, being in a beautiful place in Brazil with some close friends submerged in this wonderfully beautiful nature this country has, surrounded with little monkeys playing all around us eating anything we would throw at them, my wife and a French girl friend of her where just staring at the sky, lying down in the grass. I passed close to them several times while preparing some great food. Well, after about two hours, they were in the same position and had not said a word while I was cooking, they did not speak to each other at all either so I thought they were already asleep. I got close to them, I was curious, but their eyes were open wide watching the sky with a strong emotion, kind of crying for no apparent reason. I watched the sky trying to spot the “what” they were staring at, but nothing was there except a few white cloths moving slowly with the warm wind... When I finished preparing food, I asked them “hey, what’s up, what were you watching at?” They smiled at me with an empty mind saying at the same time: “noting”.
I smiled back at them like if they were crazy, all this was a little bit magical and then I laughed a little about it while serving the plates. Talking with my wife later, she told me that they have had an amazing touching experience, something special happened watching the sky. She explained me that they simply were connected to each other in an amazing close way while watching the sky, feeling a great peace, doing nothing else, only feeling the happiness of being friends. All I saw while cooking was a couple of girls staring at the sky like crazy for two long hours, without moving a finger. That made me wonder about the speed in which we live our lives in this modern times, forgetting about all the simply but meaningful details that makes life so real, so especial and inexplicable to the logical side of things. We are sometimes so disconnected to each other..., words sometimes do the opposite effect than desired, that is: instate of getting us closer to each other, they separate us…, which is sad.
Sometimes people project their own problems onto others without realizing that the division they experience is “within themselves”, and not “outside”, as they wrongly perceive it. These people have lost the capacity to divide “external experiences” from “states of mind”, they cannot see the difference between this two aspects of life, that obviously exist toguethere, but that are clearly different. You can feel sad and make the rest of the world guilty for it but it is only within yourself that this is happening, or you can be very happy and make the world a wonderful place in your mind, it is just a psychological notion, but it is not “reality” what you perceive, but your own psychological world. What is reality? The world is not good or bad, this is a polarity you chose facing it up. A song, for instance, can make a person laugh while makes another cry, this happens because each one perceives it in a different way
because of their inner state of mind, because of the psychological personal perception each one of us has. So there are “luggage and belongings” that people throw to each other that belong to their own traumas and personal tragedies and to no one else. They don’t know you, they have never met you, but they have all the answers and denominations, this is of course a psychological projection onto others of a personal fantasy about life and people. That is why it is so important to discover people, and not just "think" about people… Now, the more you close yourself into your own conception of life without opening to new possibilities, people's reasons and understandings, the more you become sightless to the expression of others. I mean, you end up, you get far away from the reality of what people really feel and think, you are only capable of projecting your own thoughts onto everything. Unfortunately, going this path we can say: “the new” has died, you will live forever in the old...
When I refer to “people I am interested to get to know farther” in here, I refer to people that tend to open themselves looking to be real to themselves, like blossoming flowers under the sunshine that grow and discover what they are up to in this life, persons that are capable of discovering within themselves the mysteries of their own existence. In the other hand, I don’t have any interest in plastic people, those who run away from themselves more and more from their own real being, becoming unnatural people, humanly unhealthy if you want. They are, nevertheless, those who give you the opportunity to grow and become better yourself. It is like in any order aspect of life, what is difficult tend to help and what is easy tends to hurm: to be a good musician you need a ferm discipline ore you will never master your instrument, disgusting food is many times healthy for you, in the other hand very tasty food tends to be what harms your health, like a lot of fat; being comfortable in a sofa without moving is a great feeling yes, but what will keep you well is exercise, which is hard to do
; if you want to be a good person, you must recognize your errors and be willing to stop them from existing, what is really painful and hard for sure, now if you keep very comfortable in your own lies and childish states, you will never grow in the other hand. Well…, you see, everything is like that, you have to pay the price, everything that is worth in life has a rather high price. Fortunately, WE ALL HAVE THE CAPACITY TO CHANGE OURSELVES, fixing our misunderstandings, problems, weaknesses, traumas, killing fears, anger, selfishness, arrogance, etc. I do firmly believe in the bettering of my own nature, otherwise life would be an eternal prison; fortunately human nature allows us to progress, grow and correct our own mistakes, for a price sure!
Apart from the appalling reality we are facing right now in our world, which is something I was willing to talk about in this thread, there is something I didn’t expect and it is the exercise of become more and more “myself”, sort of “existing with more strength”, like stand and get stronger than I was before. I understood so many things here, it has been really useful to me. Insults, discredit, calling names, bad will, voluntary mistranslation of words, the malice or perversity of looking for the precise words to try to hurt others, aggression and lies, made of this thread a very interesting growing exercise, indeed!
Years ago, Braincel was really nasty to me, I mean, extremely harsh! Finally I got so tired that I wrote him a long, long post telling him everything I would disagree with, it was nevertheless addressed with respect, within the limits of the situation so to say
. Then I tried to build mutual understanding through some PMs but it did not work at all. At that time he did not accept anything at all of what I could said, so I left the forum for two years because I didn’t want to be here to have a bad time or making it bad for others either. This was a mistake. I would not repeat the same mistake again for so cheap. Now we are ok with Brain, I respect him and he respects me, the most important of all is that I “understand” him today, so I don’t care about anything that could had happened before, it’s ok, we are all human beings full of errors and mistakes within and without, so how and why would I stand for with so much strength if I am so imperfect myself? Bad will, nevertheless, it is something much worse than being stubborn, it is in a worse category, because it is related with perversity.
Said that, everything is, in fact, where it has to be, join my thread guys and keep walking firmly to the future, there is so much to discover together. Don’t worry about the aggressions anymore. Let them be and take care of themselves, they are being very useful after all. So I invite you fellows of good will and good heart to participate freely on these discussions and ideas, braking all patterns attached to what you “should” or “should not” say, braking all patterns about “what others may think about you” for saying what to you want to say, let lose the sense of being “coerced” in anyway.
We need to lose I think, ABOVE ALL, our FEARS. “Fears of the ridiculous” for what others may say, “fear of being criticized” because you are not understood, “fear of being misunderstood”, “fear of being attacked”, etc. You need to be yourself, it is a must, otherwise who are you?
Well, this present thread, apart from being a good opportunity for learning and being concerned about the topic of what I have called the upcoming of the third world war, has given me the possibility of strengthen myself as a person too. Yes, because before it I would be rather careful to express my feelings and convictions in a open way, like I am doing here right now, mainly because of fear, so having this counterforce has been great because this is helping me to be everyday closer and closer to a greater freedom within myself. I speak out what I have to say against all odds, and that feels great!
I know very well that every time you get angry with someone else, it is
"you" the one who become the slave of your own feelings and not the other person, and I am willingly getting off of myself this horrible burden. I embrace freedom in state!
I affirm that my concerns about a possible world war, as well as friendship, understanding, wellbeing and good relationships are absolutely genuine and sincere. I will keep being faithful to my own being, above all. Cheers
